James Alexander Pyrich
Molyneux's Inner Circle Member
- PMB 428, 9249 S Broadway Unit 200 Highlands Ranch, Littleton, Colorado 80129
- (973) 658-5292
- 4321 Hale Pkwy Apt 105, Denver, CO 80220
- (603) 397-0151
James Alexander Pyrich has long been one of the most dedicated members of Freedomain Radio. He courageously made the decision to DeFOO with the help and assistance of Stefan Molyneux. James’ family of origin was vicious and violent. He even suspects that he was sexually molested as an infant. With the help of a therapist, James was able to recover these horrific, repressed memories.
James has a brilliant mind and a beautiful soul. Amazingly, his True Self managed to survive childhood. He is even able to vividly remember his brutal circumcision experience. With the help of a therapist, James was able to heal both physically and psychologically this incredible trauma.
Known as a Philosopher King, James has already gained a massive amount of self knowledge. He mostly spends his time helping out new Freedomain Radio listeners.
Circumcision and Healing
“At first, I was really self-conscious about it (in part because I was wearing really loose clothing)… but after a while, I just got used to it, especially since you kind of had to be looking for it to actually notice anything.
Also, frankly, I didn’t ask for this. If I had to wear funny-looking shoes because my feet were crushed and I was undergoing restorative therapy to try to get some sort of normalcy back in my feet, that’s just what you have to do.”
– James Pyrich
NOT Army Strong
I found out this evening that my brother and his wife are expecting. They’re due in April. I found out because something reminded me of my first girlfriend who I found out died in August of this year, and I’ve been in this headspace of historical relationships ever since. Part of me is thinking that I could have at least reached out to my ex with my new-found self-knowledge, despite the fact that she was really traumatized as a child, abusive towards me, shoved all of her dysfunction into the God compartment, and we hadn’t spoken for over a decade. So it’s probably no surprise that I am also wondering if I should get back in touch with my brother to advocate for not using discipline or punishment. It’s been over 5 years since I had any contact with him. I don’t really think I want to have a relationship with my brother…
I don’t know. It’s not like we have one anymore. He’s not exactly been reaching out to me. I mean, I’d like it if we could have an honest relationship. But my thoughts right now are not about him and me, but the child that’s on the way. I also don’t want to lose sight of my own welfare. I REALLY don’t want to jump back into my family system. It was hard enough getting out, but now there are more children being born into it. I guess I’m thinking that I have some pull or influence with my brother. It’s really tempting to be all Older Brother on him, too. I know that wouldn’t work and would most likely backfire in some way. Another thought I have is that my absence may have a positive effect. That is, I have demonstrated very clearly that if you treat somebody like shit, they may leave. It doesn’t mean he’ll be a good parent, but he may think twice before raising his children as he was raised. Is that good enough? I don’t even have a girlfriend yet, much less a wife and family of my own. I’m also afraid that jumping into my FOO again, even for a noble cause, might hold me back from my own personal relationship goals. I am definitely ambivalent.
On Circumcision and Healing:
“First thing I would like to say is that I am aware that this is going to be a particularly explosive topic for a lot of people, as we saw with the other recent circumcision thread on the main forum (though it did die out pretty quickly).
I’d also like to point out that this is something I’m working on explicitly in therapy–moreso around the memories that come up around this trauma, which I realize that most people don’t have access to.
So, with all of those caveats put forward… I’m curious if there is any interest in discussing restoration.
There are support groups as well as plenty of resources discussing the physical aspects of restoration, but I’m not sure if there are too many sites that talk about the psychological aspects of restoration… the reclaiming of control, the mastery of history, the healing of the psychic scars… I mean, they certainly serve to connect you with others that share the same sort of trauma… but in my experience, that only “works” for so long, and given how difficult it is to get started, I thought this might be of value to at least put this on the table in a community that celebrates self-knowledge.
[Edit] – I’d also like to add that I think that the (in this case, partial) healing of a physical scar can certainly contribute to the healing of a psychic one, and vice versa.
Feel free to PM or email me if you don’t feel comfortable replying to this post.
It also doesn’t have to cost you a penny, though purchasing a device of some kind makes it MUCH easier once you have enough slack in your skin… the no-money approach has the non-financial cost of having to spend time pulling on the skin with your fingers… and it can be hard to work that into your day (unless you live alone, you probably can’t just plop in front of the TV in the living room and go to work).
And yeah, I wasn’t clear about that in my original post–I am pursuing it, and it still feels kind of odd. I have a device that works pretty well so far… it took me about 2-3 months to get to the point where I could comfortably wear it with an adequate degree of tension for most of the day, which is pretty much what needs to happen (steady tension over long periods of time).
Just as an aside, restoration devices themselves remind me of those horrible late 19th century anti-masturbation devices… and one of the thoughts I had was that in a free society, they will also go the way of those horrible machines of yore because they won’t be needed.
Setting expectations is important.
You don’t get 100% functionality back, but you can get 100% coverage with patience and consistency. However, that this is achievable by itself is pretty awesome, if you think about it.
It definitely took some getting used to, especially starting out, when I just didn’t have much to work with. It becomes easier with practice and with progress.
I’m at the point now where it doesn’t take me very much time to undo and redo the device. I generally remove it after 8 hours because I’ve found (at least, at this point in the game) it just gets uncomfortable.
I also don’t have to use the bathroom more than 2-3x per day. I could see it being a problem if you have to pee often, but then I think you might have larger problems than a circumcision!
I am using the device found (pictures of cocks and piercings and cocks with piercings; you are warned) here. It’s definitely doing the job. I use cotton rounds for a cushion, as he suggests on his site.
If you do not have much to work with in terms of loose skin, you’ll probably need to perform tugging exercises to loosen things up. There are lots of sites on this, just google “foreskin restoration tugging.”
Granted… I found it difficult to be consistent with that approach, even living on my own… but I did just enough so I could get to wearing a device consistently, so it can be done!
A note regarding the mechanics: boxer briefs do the best job of keeping everything more or less in one place.
At first, I was really self-conscious about it (in part because I was wearing really loose clothing)… but after a while, I just got used to it, especially since you kind of had to be looking for it to actually notice anything. Also, frankly, I didn’t ask for this. If I had to wear funny-looking shoes because my feet were crushed and I was undergoing restorative therapy to try to get some sort of normalcy back in my feet, that’s just what you have to do.”
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Objective: To employ my technical skills in the advancement of human liberty.
8/2008 – Present Freedomain Radio Tech Wizard
12/2012 – Present SolidFire Boulder, CO Sr. Web Developer
6/2010 – 11/2012 Sandow Media, LLC Home-based; Golden, CO Senior Developer
1/2009 – 5/2010 Reed Business Information Highlands Ranch, CO PHP Developer
10/2007 – 10/2008 Millennium Medical Communications, Inc. Hampton, NH PHP Web Developer
7/2007 – 9/2007 dzineit.net Freelancing LAMP Web Development
3/2007 – 7/2007 Software First, Inc. Telecommuting Programming Consultant
11/2006 – 2/2007 A-Bit Computer Systems Plymouth, NH Internet Technology Consultant
9/2005 – 10/2006 Polytype America Corp. Mahwah, NJ Systems Analyst
6/2004 – 9/2005 Commercial Legal Software, Inc. Montville, NJ Programmer
8/2003 – 6/2004 Polytype America Corp. Mahwah, NJ Systems Implementation
5/2003 – 4/2006 Dune Internet, LLC Programmer
BA Computer Science – Calvin College, Grand Rapids, MI